I am feeling positive and excited about the adoption for the first time in a VERY long time. Ever since we submitted our application in Feb. 2006, at every turn the predicted length of time this process would take has only gotten longer. At first we thought it might take one year from LID (7-22-06) at the MOST, then a year and half, then two years, then three. The pace of matches for NSN adoptions has slowed continually throughout, moving the finish line farther and farther away. In January 2008, we decided to become part of the waiting child program. That was a good move for several reasons. First, at present, the wait for a NSN (non-special needs) child from China for us would reach a total of seven years at the current pace of matches. More importantly, though, the need is greater for children in China's waiting child program. We have researched several medical diagnoses with which we feel comfortable and put them on our medical conditions checklist (MCC) which is on file with CCAI. After we filed our original MCC 14 months ago, I felt elated. I found something proactive to do to start moving our adoption forward. Eventually, that excitement died down as our wait for a "waiting" child approached, then exceeded, a year with no end in sight.
This week, however, we made another move--we finally let our agency, CCAI, know that we would happily accept the referral of either a boy or a girl from China. We had originally applied for a girl since the situation regarding abandoned girls in China is well known. Interestingly, in the waiting child program, little boys are harder to place than girls even though there are nearly as many waiting boys with special medical needs as girls. It took us awhile to let go of our phantom second daughter (it took Jon about an extra six months), but this week he decided he was ready. Considering how long we have been waiting, it is ALMOST a sure thing that we will be matched with a boy (though a girl is still possible). Hopefully, this also means that we will receive "the call" much, much sooner. In my mind, I have already redecorated Gemma's room, which she will have to share, to make it more gender-neutral. It won't take a lot of work since Gemma's favorite color is dark blue and there are very few feminine touches in her room.
I hope I am not sitting here six months from now, more depressed than ever, still without my child.
Saturday, March 14, 2009
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1. Holy cow! You have a blog!
ReplyDelete2. Such amazing news. My sister named her dog Roxy anyway. It would be confusing for B.
3. Glad you are feeling hope. I can't imagine what you've been through.
xo